You experience life through your senses. Being more aware of your senses allows you to become a more sensuous person.
Take time to slow down. Modern life has us hurrying about everyday doing this, that and the other. Start off by taking a few minutes each day breathing slowly. If you have more than a few minutes to spare try meditation for 10 minutes. Meditation doesn't have to be complicated you can just sit quietly in a chair and focus on breathing slowly. When you are walking outside either to your car or to the mailbox, consciously take each step slowly. Concentrate on your sense of touch and sound. Are there birds chirping? How does the air feel on your face?
When you take time for yourself you get to indulge in your senses. Tuning into your senses by slowing down is necessary to becoming more sensuous and in turn can lead to more pleasurable experiences.
As you start to better appreciate the experiences from slowing down you want to move into pleasuring your senses.
Feed your sense of sight by taking the time to gaze at the swirls of clouds in the sky or star gazing in the evening sky. Notice the beauty of blooming flowers or even that way your hair falls on your face. Appreciate the sight of such beauty.
You can pleasure your sense of hearing by listening to your favorite slow jams cd or your favorite jazz cd, let the melodic sounds transport you to a start of relaxation. There are beautiful sounds everywhere; the sound of your lover breathing softly beside you, the sounds of your lover moaning softly as you stroke his/her hair, even the sounds of the rain falling gently against the window. Be still and notice all the sounds that are pleasurable to your sense of hearing.
Cook a lavish meal for you and your lover. Enjoy the flavors and textures that are pleasuring your sense of taste. While you are eating remember to eat slowly to fully take delight in what your sense of taste is experiencing.
Have you ever reveled in the feeling of your lover running his/her hands down the length of your back? Or even paid attention to how pleasurable it is to your sense of touch when you slide into nice cool, soft bedsheets at night? Physical contact is essential to human development which is no wonder why gratifying our sense of touch is so important and is key to becoming more sensuous.
Having scented candles in your bedroom and bathroom create a calming environment and bring joy to your sense of smell. Essential oils have positive effects on your sense of smell as well, they help to relax and soothe you. The intoxicating aroma of your lover's natural scents can be very sensually stimulating.
A woman who experiences life through her senses can be viewed as both alluring and appealing; the man who experiences his life through his senses can be viewed as seductive and inviting.
Here are a few ways to deepen your sensuality…..

**Create a sensuous self-image. Your mental images influence the way you look, feel and act. The beliefs you have about yourself will influence these mental images. Hold in your mind the feeling of you being absolutely sensual and you will stimulate your mind to produce images of you being sensual. Your mind will play you doing things more sensually which will result in you actually feeling, doing and being sensual.

**Move your body in a way that makes you feel sensuous. They way you walk says a lot about you. Move in a way the communicates your sensual energy. You should radiate strength and confidence.

**Use clothing and adornments to feel sensual. You want to wear things that make you feel sexy and sensual. When you feel good in your clothes you feel and move more confidently.

Being sensual is not just about sex it is about channeling your senses to experience ALL of life more sensually. Go forth and pleasure your senses today!!

There are many benefits to having regular orgasms but I am gonna give you six reasons why you should add an orgasm to your morning routine! Orgasms are a great way to start the day; making the day fly by. 

What are the benefits you say??? Here they are:

1. Less Stress
Feel good endorphins like dopamine and serotonin are released in the body during orgasm which leave you calm, happy and balanced. can you say "euphoria"? LOL These feel good vibes will help you get through your day with a clear mind so when your day serves up "hell on a platter" you can breeze through it without being an a**hole!

2. Better Performance/Productivity
Cortisol is a hormone the body produces when it is stressed or in a stressful situation which can stem from anxiety at work pertaining to a specific project, presentation etc. Orgasms help lower cortisol levels which helps banish anxiety. A recent study in Scotland proved that people that had orgasms before important speaking engagements  felt much calmer and more self-possessed when it came to deliver their speeches. This definitely ia a "win-win" situation LOL.

3. Bye Bye Belly Bloat 
Ok guys this one is strictly for the ladies! Oxytocin is a hormone that is released during sex, childbirth and lactation. Oxytocin has been dubbed the "love hormone" or the "bliss hormone because it can create influences in both emotional and social behavior including romantic attachment and empathy. Oxytocin lowers your cortisol levels (remember we talked about that in #2) and cortisol in the hormone behind both stress and belly bloat so you kill two birds with one stone! Not to mention oxytocin leaves you feeling physically amazing!! AWESOME!!

4. Boost Brain Function
Orgasm also creates a spike in DHEA hormone, this will aid in improved memory function and boosts your brain activity. So not only do you feel great, your mind will be sharp and as an added bonus DHEA gives your skin that amazing post-sex glow! Orgasm= Beauty and Brains!

5. Laser Focus
This one is for the single people.....masturbation is like meditation. Masturbation much like meditation requires relax and focus, you are persistent and regular in your actions and then after a while the zen rushes over you in the form of a glorious orgasmic bliss. Meditation and masturbation both promote your ability to exercise mindfulness which is your ability to be present, quiet your thoughts and focus on one thing. This process helps you to learn slow your mind and control the flow of information which is key in staying focused.

6. When You Feel Good You Do Good
Some say if it feels good then it is bad for you....C'mon....don't believe everything you hear! Doing things that make you feel good and give you pleasure help you stay energized to meet your goals. If you feel good you do good!!

An orgasm in the morning will set you up for a great  and productive day and also put you on course for success and improving your well being.

1. It alleviates pressure to go to the gym. Having an orgasm is a great cardio workout, comparable to a sprint.

2. Your metabolism increases momentarily and helps you burn calories and shift stubborn fat.

3. Having an orgasm temporarily removes fine line and wrinkles. As blood surges through your capillaries, the surface of your skin plumps and tightens.

4. Having an orgasm boosts breast size, albeit temporarily, by increasing chest muscle tone and the engorgement caused by the heightened blood flow.

5. You will feel calmer, more compassionate toward your mate and more focused about what you want from him. You'll also feel a slight sexier too....

​6. Having one orgasm increases your chances of having another. Orgasms help develop strong pathways from the source of stimulation to the brain. If those pathways  are weaken from not enough usage, your orgasm potential is decreased.


Go forth sexy ladies and masturbate!!!  

I bet you didn't know that the loincloth, worn thousands of years ago is likely to be the first undergarment worn by humans and it evolved into the thong over the years. Ironically, it was first worn by men in ancient times before it evolved into part of women's lingerie in modern times. The Egyptians were one of the earliest people to wear this thong-like clothing. The earliest loincloths were made of leather and this was used until the introduction of fabric much later on....could you imagine always wearing a leather thong...ouch! The famous King Tutankhamun was found buried with more than a hundred loincloths in his tomb. In the middle ages, the loincloth was replaced by a large, loose outfit called braies. This was usually made from linen and is much bigger than the loincloth. The braies is made with a covering at the front that could be buttoned or tied closed. which is kinda reminiscent of the modern day g-string.

In modern times, historians trace the thong's first public appearance to 1939 when New York Mayor Fiorello LaGuardia directed that the city’s nude exotic dancers to dress more appropriately. Fashion designer, Rudi Gernreich was credited with introducing the first modern thong back in 1974. The thong was worn for many years by exotic Brazilian dancers and was very widely worn during the festivals. These tight, tiny thongs grew in popularity during the 80s in South America and were used as swimwear at the beaches. Its popularity and influence spread to various parts of the world in the late 90s. In the US, the sexy thong only gained wide acceptance in the 90s when exotic lingerie came into the mainstream. Today, the thong is one of the best selling styles of undergarment in the world. The size of the lingerie industry is said to be over $2 billion a year. The thong became so popular that there were even songs written about it. The most famous one was of course "The Thong Song" by Sisqo. The Thong Song from Sisqo's debut album Unleash The Dragon was such a big hit that it reached number 3 on the US pop charts and sold over 4 million copies worldwide.

Besides the sexy thong, there are also many different types and variants of exotic lingerie available in the market today. Some of the different types of lingerie available include the chemise, camisoles, boy shorts, bustiers, corsets, teddies and G-strings. Many designers today have come up with very flamboyant and creative designs and the thongs today are very different from the designs of yesteryear's  It is extremely minimalist, erotic and chic.

Yes, I masturbate! I fit it in somewhere between crocheting, cooking and sex with Mr. Sexy. I am a poster child for self pleasure! Masturbation is a perfectly safe and natural thing, so don't be shy. Go ahead, MASTURBATE, and I'm going to tell you why you should.


1. It feels Great!!

2. It teaches you about your body-what turns you on and what doesn't. Masturbation helps you to identify your basic sexual needs and how best to satisfy them. 

3. It releases tension, especially during "that time of the month." Having an orgasm releases endorphins which is a natural pain reliever, so if you are having cramps its good to masturbate. It will keep you from wanting to stab people.

4.It gets your blood flowing which is great when you have spend hours sitting and working!!

5. If you are single, it stops you from climbing the walls or sleeping with the first/every guy you meet.

6. It's totally safe sex!

7. It's a great beauty treatment. Orgasm improves circulation, combats the effects of stress and makes your skin glow!

8. You can concentrate purely on your own pleasure without worrying about someone else.

9. The more you masturbate, the more capable orgasms you'll be capable of having both with and without your partner. Just like any activity that you are not good at you practice, right? Well, look at this as practice.

10. Being able to pleasure yourself with an orgasm is true sexual independence.

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All men wish their woman could be uninhibited like the ones on the porno. Most times it is not about what is going on that they like, it is what is being said that they like. YUP! I'm talking about "talking dirty".

Talking dirty requires a great deal of confidence, and it needs to be believable-otherwise you might spoil the mood because you are laughing (for some sexual encounters the giggly dirty talk may work).

Dirty talk is great as foreplay before you even make it to the bedroom. Call him on the phone and tell him how much you want him and what you would like to do to him when he gets there. I am sure when he arrives he will have a raging hard-on! When talking dirty as foreplay you want to remember the purpose is to seduce him with your words; sexy and sensuous. This is not the time for aggressive statements like "F**k me hard right now!" Save that for the actual act.

A good way to ease into talking dirty during sex is to start off by simply telling how whatever he is doing feels-"I love it when you touch me there..." A man who really cares about pleasing you will appreciate the feedback, he wants to know that he is doing a good job. They love compliments almost as much as we do, so if he has a big ****, tell him!! You may not feel comfortable using those words but you could just say "its sooo big". Its okay during sex to get a little more aggressive with your dirty talk, feel free to give him direction and let him know when he gets it right. He wants to know that you like pleasing him too so make sure you let him know. Don't forget this is a two way street! Ha!

Once you unleash your dirty talk skills and see what they can do for your sex life, you'll feel like you found a Secret, Sexy Superhero power. Use your power to make your good girl persona into a tigress between the sheets, your dominant role as the master of pleasure and erotic control, or your femme fatale identity into a prowling seductress -- bar none. Dirty talk skills can be used between the sheets, over the phone, in a chat room, in a crowded restaurant or anywhere that turns you on. Mask, cape and boots are optional.