Let me emphasize that while giving oral sex you also flaunt and increase your female power. Women’s history is silent on the subject of our sexual ploys, but history gives us rumors. When women were routinely oppressed, you know they had their wiles, which are
buried in silence.
*Catherine the Great would blow an officer in her royal bedroom and then exile the man to a remote part of Russia so she wouldn’t have to face a subject she’d gone down on.
*The Duchess of Windsor had studied every way to give sexual pleasure in the Orient before she met and got the sap running through the King of England. Rumor had it that she learned butterfly movements with both her love muscle and her throat.
*Cleopatra put stars in the eyes of two rulers of the known world, Caesar and Mark Anthony. In ancient relief sculptures you see the asp right up at her lips and she’s smiling. (Caesar was so gone on the Queen of Egypt, he took her back to Rome at one point and had her unrolled from an Oriental carpet to display her full beauty.) Among Cleopatra’s nicknames were “The great swallower” and “She of the wide mouth.” She was said to have gone down on a hundred men during a single dinner party.
*What was Elizabeth I really doing to Sir WalterRaleigh when she received him in privacy and, as legend has it, bowed down, stiff gown and all, in front of him? Something that bonded them and made her so jealous that she spurned him when he wed a lady-in-waiting. It was also said she sported with men without ever taking off her clothes. B-l-o-w
*Eleanor of Aquitaine was so snowed by her distant relative Raymond that she didn’t want to come back from the Crusades. It was rumored that her intimacy with Raymond was very close, but not of a sort to produce babies. Discreet chroniclers recorded that Eleanor got on her knees and gave the Crusader a kiss: that’s baiser, one French slang word for oral sex. Another is tailler la pipe, or “to sharpen a pipe.”
*In tender letters to Josephine, Napoleon rhapsodized about their oral sex (both ways). It’s come to light that he may have divorced her because she extended her favors to other men.
Two prime examples of fellatio in architectural detail date from the same medieval period in India, around the 10th to 12th century. This is one of many erotic practices openly exhibited in the sculptures of a famous and beautiful temple at Konarak, on the Bay of Bengal.
They honor the sun god Surya. The stone friezes in the many temples at Khajureho, a capital of Tantric yoga, are lush with depictions of sexual positions. The stone is so sensual and lush as to be arousing.
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An English colonel’s wife spoke in shocked terms about the shocking things the Duchess of Windsor did to the abdicated King of England without even removing her clothes. She got her man and kept him happy through a long marriage. The Duchess was also supposed to have a fluttering climax that drove the Duke wild.
Then there was Theodora, a prostitute in Byzantium whose skills at fellatio were discovered by the Emperor Justinian. Theodora’s repertory of skills including fellatio made her Queen of Byzantium. We’re talking serious monogamy too. After Justinian
married her, all the prostitutes who knew Theodora’s past were forced to marry within a year to protect the Queen’s reputation.
How did someone like the Duchess of Windsor learn? From a good sexual mentor while her first husband was stationed in China. Masters and Johnson were helpful when they were practical: do this, do that, because it feels wonderful. I am going to instruct you in ways of holding the shaft, caressing different parts of his genitalia, timing, mental imaging, use of mouth and tongue, posture, accessory massage, breathing, hygiene, and
many other immediately useful points. What I love most about this subject is that it equalizes the young and old, comely and homely, vivacious and quiet. Nearly every woman can develop her expertise at oral sex, and grow to love it more and more.
(excerpts taken from "The Ultimate Guide to Oral Sex: How to give a man mind blowing pleasure.)
One of the really awesome things about being a Romance Enhancement Specialist is that I get the chance to sample lots of great products! This past weekend the company that I am a consultant through Intimate Tickles had its 1st Consultant Convention. It was super fun and exciting! We not only got to learn from each other but we also got lots of useful information from the various vendors and educators that came to present to us. We were visited by representatives from Classic Erotica, Wet Lubes, and Adrien Lastic. We also got a great wealth of information from fellow consultant and Certified Sexologist Robyn Vaughan.
Our owners Virginia White Brown and Deryk Brown really put on a great event! It was nice to meet fellow consultants from other states and share ideas, tips, and tricks with each other.
There were also lots of goodies!! I left convention with a WHOLE extra bag of freebies, goodies, and samples.....which leads me to my product review! We were asked to sample possible new products to be added to what we currently carry. I decided to give Intimate Earth's Oral Pleasure Glide a try. I like Intimate Earth Products because they are made from organic ingredients, paraben free and 100% vegan (I just happen to be vegan LOL) This particular item contains no sugars, it is sweetened with natural stevia.
Oral Pleasure Glide is a water based oral sex lubricant. I personally don't like really sweet things and I liked the fact that the flavor of this product was a very mild and delicate fruit flavor. It was silky once applied to the area and was not sticky after it was licked off. It stays very slick for a good amount of time and the slickness was "reactivated" after being introduced to water or saliva. It definitely would earn the likes of men and women alike. I personally would give this product 5 out of 5 stars!!
It’s a basic male instinct to seek oral gratification. A man loves receiving oral sex from a woman because it feels like he’s getting to fuck your mouth. Now, I said I could go on for days about techniques; these are a starting point to getting him off.
*Always use your hands as an extension of your mouth. If you can't take all of him in your mouth use your hands to provide stimulation.. so you don't miss a spot.
*Put his penis in the side of your mouth to prevent the "Gag Reflex." (One of my favorite products to help numb the gag reflex is Oral Sex Mints)
*Try to keep eye contact with your lover while orally pleasing him.
*Wrap your lips tightly around the head and use plenty of suction.
*Lick and lap the underside of his dick with your tongue flat.
*Change your rhythm from long, slow sucking to short, fast, milking action.
*Shake and wiggle his penis in your mouth.
*Hold the base tight while making spiral motions around the head.
*Gently tug his balls while sucking.
*For "Deep Throating" keep your head back and let him straddle you. (I'll give you more tips on Deep Throating later)
*Make humming sounds during oral love for some extra vibration.
*Put him between your breasts for variety.
*Gargle with mouthwash or suck on a mint prior to oral love for a tingle.
*Don't change your rhythm just before he climaxes unless he asks you to.
*Ask him how he wants to be sucked; gently, hard, slow, fast, deep...
*Need more instruction? A great go-to guide to have is The Ultimate Guide to Oral Sex.
Remember enthusiasm is more important than technique and be sure as you try each technique to gauge his response to learn which ones he really likes!
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So, I asked him the question...."Baby, if you were blindfolded and had to pick me out of a lineup of women only allowed to suck your dick, could you pick me out?
He replied by saying, "Hell yeah, you're the "obi wan"!" I was somewhat puzzled but then I realized he was referring to Obi Wan Kanobe, the Jedi Master in Star Wars. Okay, I'll take that as a compliment, he thinks I'm a Master at the art of sucking dick!
I would be a tad bit confident and say that I wasn't surprised because I take pride in my skills. What makes my technique so good, you ask? I enjoy it! Simple as that!
To a man receiving head is more enjoyable for them when they feel like you really enjoy what you are doing. When you enjoy giving him head you will naturally get into the act.
First of all, you must become one with the dick. Don't be afraid to touch it or lick it and if you are concerned about him being "dirty" take a shower together first as forplay. To become one with the dick look at it and stroke it. Pay attention to his reactions as you rub it fast or slow. It is very important that you pay attention because you can't suck every dick the same. When you put the dick in your mouth don't rush and just immediately start bobbing up and down. Start by just sucking and licking just the head, this is the most sensitive area. Take time to run your tongue up the sides, front and back and check for his reactions. Becoming an expert at sucking dick requires that you learn what turns him on and give all your attention to pleasing him.
You really wanna knock his socks off? SWALLOW! Men love when you are willing to take his ejaculate in your mouth and slurp it down like a cool drink. Not to worry ladies, swallowing his ejaculate is perfectly safe. (I would advise that you only do this with someone you are manogamous with, since you can transmit stds through bodily fluids.) If you are concerned about the taste, pop a peppermint before you start to perform oral sex. He will love the sensation and it will mask the taste for you.
I could go on for days about techniques but that is really not all that important to a guy. If you really want to know, ask him, they will tell you exactly what they like and will be more than glad to let you know when you are doing something right.
Your man would love to know that you enjoy giving him head. That is the ultimate turn on for him. If you are willing to suck his dick and he is on his way out the door, imagine the smile he will have on his face all day, and the fucking you are going to get when he returns!
Oh, and don't always give head and expect to receive oral from him in return, most women only "go down" because either he did it to them first or because they want him to give it to them. That is the wrong mentality to have you must remember it is always better to give than receive.
For a few tips stick around for Giving Good Head: Part Deux!
I am a mother of two young men (one of whom is an adult without giving away my age! LOL) an entrepreneur, avid crafter, diva domestic goddess and a lusty lover.