Let me emphasize that while giving oral sex you also flaunt and increase your female power. Women’s history is silent on the subject of our sexual ploys, but history gives us rumors. When women were routinely oppressed, you know they had their wiles, which are
buried in silence.

*Catherine the Great would blow an officer in her royal bedroom and then exile the man to a remote part of Russia so she wouldn’t have to face a subject she’d gone down on.

*The Duchess of Windsor had studied every way to give sexual pleasure in the Orient before she met and got the sap running through the King of England. Rumor had it that she learned butterfly movements with both her love muscle and her throat.

*Cleopatra put stars in the eyes of two rulers of the known world, Caesar and Mark Anthony. In ancient relief sculptures you see the asp right up at her lips and she’s smiling. (Caesar was so gone on the Queen of Egypt, he took her back to Rome at one point and had her unrolled from an Oriental carpet to display her full beauty.) Among Cleopatra’s nicknames were “The great swallower” and “She of the wide mouth.” She was said to have gone down on a hundred men during a single dinner party.

*What was Elizabeth I really doing to Sir WalterRaleigh when she received him in privacy and, as legend has it, bowed down, stiff gown and all, in front of him? Something that bonded them and made her so jealous that she spurned him when he wed a lady-in-waiting. It was also said she sported with men without ever taking off her clothes. B-l-o-w
j-o-b!

*Eleanor of Aquitaine was so snowed by her distant relative Raymond that she didn’t want to come back from the Crusades. It was rumored that her intimacy with Raymond was very close, but not of a sort to produce babies. Discreet chroniclers recorded that Eleanor got on her knees and gave the Crusader a kiss: that’s baiser, one French slang word for oral sex. Another is tailler la pipe, or “to sharpen a pipe.”

*In tender letters to Josephine, Napoleon rhapsodized about their oral sex (both ways). It’s come to light that he may have divorced her because she extended her favors to other men.

Two prime examples of fellatio in architectural detail date from the same medieval period in India, around the 10th to 12th century. This is one of many erotic practices openly exhibited in the sculptures of a famous and beautiful temple at Konarak, on the Bay of Bengal.
They honor the sun god Surya. The stone friezes in the many temples at Khajureho, a capital of Tantric yoga, are lush with depictions of sexual positions. The stone is so sensual and lush as to be arousing.

Realize Your Power in the Bedroom
An English colonel’s wife spoke in shocked terms about the shocking things the Duchess of Windsor did to the abdicated King of England without even removing her clothes. She got her man and kept him happy through a long marriage. The Duchess was also supposed to have a fluttering climax that drove the Duke wild.
Then there was Theodora, a prostitute in Byzantium whose skills at fellatio were discovered by the Emperor Justinian. Theodora’s repertory of skills including fellatio made her Queen of Byzantium. We’re talking serious monogamy too. After Justinian
married her, all the prostitutes who knew Theodora’s past were forced to marry within a year to protect the Queen’s reputation.
How did someone like the Duchess of Windsor learn? From a good sexual mentor while her first husband was stationed in China. Masters and Johnson were helpful when they were practical: do this, do that, because it feels wonderful. I am going to instruct you in ways of holding the shaft, caressing different parts of his genitalia, timing, mental imaging, use of mouth and tongue, posture, accessory massage, breathing, hygiene, and
many other immediately useful points. What I love most about this subject is that it equalizes the young and old, comely and homely, vivacious and quiet. Nearly every woman can develop her expertise at oral sex, and grow to love it more and more.

(excerpts taken from "The Ultimate Guide to Oral Sex: How to give a man mind blowing pleasure.)

One of the really awesome things about being a Romance Enhancement Specialist is that I get the chance to sample lots of great products! This past weekend the company that I am a consultant through Intimate Tickles had its 1st Consultant Convention. It was super fun and exciting! We not only got to learn from each other but we also got lots of useful information from the various vendors and educators that came to present to us. We were visited by representatives from Classic Erotica, Wet Lubes, and Adrien Lastic. We also got a great wealth of information from fellow consultant and Certified Sexologist Robyn Vaughan.

Our owners Virginia White Brown and Deryk Brown really put on a great event! It was nice to meet fellow consultants from other states and share ideas, tips, and tricks with each other. 

There were also lots of goodies!! I left convention with a WHOLE extra bag of freebies, goodies, and samples.....which leads me to my product review! We were asked to sample possible new products to be added to what we currently carry. I decided to give Intimate Earth's Oral Pleasure Glide a try. I like Intimate Earth Products because they are made from organic ingredients, paraben free and 100% vegan (I just happen to be vegan LOL) This particular item contains no sugars, it is sweetened with natural stevia. 

Oral Pleasure Glide is a water based oral sex lubricant. I personally don't like really sweet things and I liked the fact that the flavor of this product was a very mild and delicate fruit flavor. It was silky once applied to the area and was not sticky after it was licked off. It stays very slick for a good amount of time and the slickness was "reactivated" after being introduced to water or saliva. It definitely would earn the likes of men and women alike. I personally would give this product 5 out of 5 stars!! 

You experience life through your senses. Being more aware of your senses allows you to become a more sensuous person.
Take time to slow down. Modern life has us hurrying about everyday doing this, that and the other. Start off by taking a few minutes each day breathing slowly. If you have more than a few minutes to spare try meditation for 10 minutes. Meditation doesn't have to be complicated you can just sit quietly in a chair and focus on breathing slowly. When you are walking outside either to your car or to the mailbox, consciously take each step slowly. Concentrate on your sense of touch and sound. Are there birds chirping? How does the air feel on your face?
When you take time for yourself you get to indulge in your senses. Tuning into your senses by slowing down is necessary to becoming more sensuous and in turn can lead to more pleasurable experiences.
As you start to better appreciate the experiences from slowing down you want to move into pleasuring your senses.
Feed your sense of sight by taking the time to gaze at the swirls of clouds in the sky or star gazing in the evening sky. Notice the beauty of blooming flowers or even that way your hair falls on your face. Appreciate the sight of such beauty.
You can pleasure your sense of hearing by listening to your favorite slow jams cd or your favorite jazz cd, let the melodic sounds transport you to a start of relaxation. There are beautiful sounds everywhere; the sound of your lover breathing softly beside you, the sounds of your lover moaning softly as you stroke his/her hair, even the sounds of the rain falling gently against the window. Be still and notice all the sounds that are pleasurable to your sense of hearing.
Cook a lavish meal for you and your lover. Enjoy the flavors and textures that are pleasuring your sense of taste. While you are eating remember to eat slowly to fully take delight in what your sense of taste is experiencing.
Have you ever reveled in the feeling of your lover running his/her hands down the length of your back? Or even paid attention to how pleasurable it is to your sense of touch when you slide into nice cool, soft bedsheets at night? Physical contact is essential to human development which is no wonder why gratifying our sense of touch is so important and is key to becoming more sensuous.
Having scented candles in your bedroom and bathroom create a calming environment and bring joy to your sense of smell. Essential oils have positive effects on your sense of smell as well, they help to relax and soothe you. The intoxicating aroma of your lover's natural scents can be very sensually stimulating.
A woman who experiences life through her senses can be viewed as both alluring and appealing; the man who experiences his life through his senses can be viewed as seductive and inviting.
Here are a few ways to deepen your sensuality…..

**Create a sensuous self-image. Your mental images influence the way you look, feel and act. The beliefs you have about yourself will influence these mental images. Hold in your mind the feeling of you being absolutely sensual and you will stimulate your mind to produce images of you being sensual. Your mind will play you doing things more sensually which will result in you actually feeling, doing and being sensual.

**Move your body in a way that makes you feel sensuous. They way you walk says a lot about you. Move in a way the communicates your sensual energy. You should radiate strength and confidence.

**Use clothing and adornments to feel sensual. You want to wear things that make you feel sexy and sensual. When you feel good in your clothes you feel and move more confidently.

Being sensual is not just about sex it is about channeling your senses to experience ALL of life more sensually. Go forth and pleasure your senses today!!

​Every time I see him I get that familiar hot tingle between my thighs. I stood back and watched as he chatted with the guests in attendance at the party. As I watched him shake hands, I imagined his hands wrapped firmly around my waist. I yearned to be near him.
I saw him glance my way and my body froze. His beautiful brown eyes spoke to me in a secret language only he and I knew. The language of the secret love affair that he and I shared.
He made his way over to me and wrapped his arms around my waist and placed a warm kiss on the side of my neck. That was all it took to get my pussy wet. He looked me in the eyes and slowly licked his lips. I couldn't wait to feel his hot tongue on my pussy lips. My nipples were so hard that the buttons on my top gapped open slightly.
He knew I was ready. He whispered to me to meet him at his place. With that said, he let me go and walked off into the crowd. He left me standing there with my pussy dripping wet.
I made my way to my car and got in. I sat there for a moment and thoughts of him rubbing my body were running through my mind. Damn! I couldn't wait to feel him placing warm kisses all over my body. My pussy is so hot, I was not going to make it to his place without rubbing my pussy along the way. As I drove with one hand on the steering wheel, I had the other hand between my legs rubbing my hot spot. Just as I pulled up to his house my pussy exploded in a hot, wet orgasm.
He was waiting for me at the door. He didn't say a word, and in one swift movement, swept me up in his arms and carried me to the couch. His lips covered mine in a passionate kiss and I could feel my pussy dripping again. He unbuttoned my blouse and placed soft kisses on my breasts. He undid my bra and traced circles around my hard nipples. Ohhhh! I moaned softly.
He liked to tease me. He slowly kissed his way down from my breasts to my belly button and lingered there for a moment. Oh, I wanted him so bad. He slid his hand up my skirt and pulled my soaked panties off. He slid his finger into my moist hole.
After making me squirm, he slid my skirt down, parted my legs and placed a warm kiss on my pussy lips. He was as good a kisser below as he was above. He took his time and explored every inch.
I couldn't wait any longer and I grabbed his head and rubbed my hard clit across his tongue.
I screamed out in ecstasy as I climaxed; he was right there to lick up every drop of my sweet juice.
I needed to feel him inside me. He slid up and gave me a sensual kiss. The smell and taste of my pussy was on his lips. While he had me in his embrace, he guided his stiff dick into my juicy cunt. I let out a sigh as he proceeded to stroke my insides.
With each stroke he reached deeper and deeper. I wrapped my legs around his waist and held on tight as he pounded into me faster and faster.
In the most perfect unison he and I shared our orgasm simultaneously.
We lay there silent as we usually did.
I thought maybe tonight would be the night he told me how much he loved me and wanted to be with only me.
But not tonight, we lay there in silence as we always did, accepting this as a silent love affair.

There are many benefits to having regular orgasms but I am gonna give you six reasons why you should add an orgasm to your morning routine! Orgasms are a great way to start the day; making the day fly by. 

What are the benefits you say??? Here they are:

1. Less Stress
Feel good endorphins like dopamine and serotonin are released in the body during orgasm which leave you calm, happy and balanced. can you say "euphoria"? LOL These feel good vibes will help you get through your day with a clear mind so when your day serves up "hell on a platter" you can breeze through it without being an a**hole!

2. Better Performance/Productivity
Cortisol is a hormone the body produces when it is stressed or in a stressful situation which can stem from anxiety at work pertaining to a specific project, presentation etc. Orgasms help lower cortisol levels which helps banish anxiety. A recent study in Scotland proved that people that had orgasms before important speaking engagements  felt much calmer and more self-possessed when it came to deliver their speeches. This definitely ia a "win-win" situation LOL.

3. Bye Bye Belly Bloat 
Ok guys this one is strictly for the ladies! Oxytocin is a hormone that is released during sex, childbirth and lactation. Oxytocin has been dubbed the "love hormone" or the "bliss hormone because it can create influences in both emotional and social behavior including romantic attachment and empathy. Oxytocin lowers your cortisol levels (remember we talked about that in #2) and cortisol in the hormone behind both stress and belly bloat so you kill two birds with one stone! Not to mention oxytocin leaves you feeling physically amazing!! AWESOME!!

4. Boost Brain Function
Orgasm also creates a spike in DHEA hormone, this will aid in improved memory function and boosts your brain activity. So not only do you feel great, your mind will be sharp and as an added bonus DHEA gives your skin that amazing post-sex glow! Orgasm= Beauty and Brains!

5. Laser Focus
This one is for the single people.....masturbation is like meditation. Masturbation much like meditation requires relax and focus, you are persistent and regular in your actions and then after a while the zen rushes over you in the form of a glorious orgasmic bliss. Meditation and masturbation both promote your ability to exercise mindfulness which is your ability to be present, quiet your thoughts and focus on one thing. This process helps you to learn slow your mind and control the flow of information which is key in staying focused.

6. When You Feel Good You Do Good
Some say if it feels good then it is bad for you....C'mon....don't believe everything you hear! Doing things that make you feel good and give you pleasure help you stay energized to meet your goals. If you feel good you do good!!

An orgasm in the morning will set you up for a great  and productive day and also put you on course for success and improving your well being.

I sat at the table listening to various stories of business triumphs and pitfalls, bored nonetheless, when I got a call on my cellphone.
"Meet me," he said.
I excused myself, said my farewells and practically ran to my car.
I've been waiting for his call all evening. As I drove to the place he told me to meet him at, I couldn't help but think of his luscious lips covering mine. Just the mere thought of him made my nipples hard and my body hot.
I pulled into the lot and parked. He emerged from his car looking delicious as always. I got out, he pulled me near and met my lips in a very steamy kiss. I could feel his excitement rising from the bulge in his pants. I gazed into his eyes, which were the color of apple cider, cool and amber.
"You miss me?" I asked him.
His response was another kiss, this one more passionate than the first.
We walked hand in hand across the parking lot to the sandy beach front. I jumped on his strong back and held tightly as he climbed the rocks. My hot pussy was pressed closely against his back. We got to a bench and he put me down.
He sat down and I sat down straddling him. I wrapped my arms around his neck and placed a soft kiss on his forehead. I could hear the waves crashing against the shore as he caressed my back. His touch sent tingles down my spine and made my pussy wet. I had to taste him.
I ran my hand down his chest to his pants and undid the button and zipper in one swift motion. I reached down and freed his bulging manhood. I knelt down in front of him and took the head of his hard dick in my mouth. I slowly took the wholeness of him in my mouth and he let out a low moan. I worked up and down making sure not to miss an inch. I took him out of my mouth and ran my tongue down from the tip to his balls. I made sure not to neglect them and licked each one. His dick was so hard I could feel it throbbing. I put it back in my mouth and bobbed up and down faster. I'm sure he was enjoying what I was doing, since I could hear him moaning.
I knew he was close to climax, so I stopped, got up, and pulled my skirt up to my waist, my panties to the side and straddled his hard dick. I lowered myself onto him. My pussy was so wet, he slid right in. He felt so good inside of me. I rode up and down, stroking his dick with my pussy. He grabbed my waist to guide each thrust harder and deeper. I could feel my climax building with each thrust. Shit! He was hittin' it good and I couldn't hold it, my pussy creamed all over his dick.
I got up and bent over so he could hit this pussy from the back. My pussy was soaking wet and I could hear the sounds from each thrust he made.
With the next thrust, he let out a long moan and shot his load right into my already soaking pussy. I could feel the juices running out of my pussy and down the insides of both legs.
Just as we were finished, we saw lights headed our way. The security guards were clearing the beach.
I jumped on his back and he carried me down the rocks, back to my car.
He kissed me and asked, "Did you miss me?"
And I said, "Of course I did and I always do until I see you again."

Have you ever just wanted to stop him dead in his tracks and take over the show? Men are very visual, even in most cases when it come to learning. Want to know a better way to tell him exactly how you like to be rubbed, touched, or caressed? Masturbation! Masturbation plays a healthy role in the sexual lives of many women and men. It can also be a fun and intimate alternative to sexual intercourse or as foreplay when performed as a shared activity with a partner. You can masturbate your partner, or you can touch yourself in the presence of your partner. You can also masturbate together at the same time. Not only is this activity enjoyable, it can also be a very educational experience. You can learn the likes and dislikes of your partner by paying attention to techniques he or she uses during masturbation. This mutual activity can be fun in many settings including the bed, a nice hot bath, the jacuzzi, the shower, or while watching an adult film together.


Mutual masturbation is not for everyone but I find it sometimes necessary if you need or want to know how to touch or rub your partner in a way that is not only pleasurable but climatic. Since most women are unable to reach orgasm without clitoral stimulation; seeing how your partner pleasures herself gives you an idea of how to rub her just right. All penises are not created equal either so knowing what type of strokes he uses to bring himself to orgasm is a great thing to know when giving head or hand jobs. Make sure to take mental notes!


​There are several things you can do to make mutual masturbation more enjoyable. First, make sure your partner is comfortable with the idea of masturbating together. Some people may think masturbation is a private practice; others will be thrilled to share the experience. If it does not come as a natural experience, do not get frustrated; there are many other sexual activities to enjoy with your partner. Second, make sure there is plenty of lube around. Touching yourself and your partner is usually easier and less rough when a small amount of lubrication is applied. Experimenting with different brands can be half the fun! One of my favorite lubes for both masturbation and intercourse is ID Glide. Its water based, hypoallergenic and reactivates with a little water or saliva.